I came across Marie Kondo one night when I was flipping
through Netflix shows. I had never heard
of her, but I guess I happened upon a newly launched show “Tidying Up With Marie Kondo” that grew out of her books and
popularity. In fact, she was named one
of Time’s “100 most influential
people” in 2015.
Her Japanese-influenced method is very calming, although as
a Christian, I would not get into talking to my house and possessions. She
speaks hardly any English, which is why she takes a translator with her to the
homes of the people she helps get organized.
If you don’t know who she is, you can look her up
online. She is fast becoming a very
popular home organizer. But, more than
an organizer, she calls what she does “tidying up” in order to bring joy to
your space. She understands that the
clutter people have in their homes causes them stress, so she strives to help
people make their living space more enjoyable.
Although she is not someone I would watch very often because
I tend to find shows that repeatedly go through the same pattern quite
tiresome, I did watch a couple of her shows and was very inspired. I have her to
thank for sending my family on a mission this winter. Every single room in our house has been
touched, or is in process.
We are not what you would call clutter bugs by any stretch
of the imagination, especially not anything like people you often see on
television, but we do have a few areas that needed a little work. I suppose maybe you do too?
I think Marie’s first show was the one I happened upon. It was where she helped a couple who were
really struggling under the weight of their lack of clutter management skills. They could be any busy couple with kids today,
simply struggling to find the time to do what they needed to do. You could say they were getting buried under
the weight of everyday living.
Marie’s tidying process is one she created herself and calls
KonMari. Her idea is to clean by category,
rather than room. Pull out all of your
clothes, for instance, and deal with them, so you can see how much you really
have and decide what you actually need.
Is your kitchen out of control? She suggests that you pull
everything out of your kitchen drawers and off countertops and go through it.
Inspired as I was, I started with my closet, which led to one
of our daughters’ closet (who hasn’t lived at home for years) and then to my
dresser drawers, my slight book/magazine piles and then our basement “classroom”
(we were homeschoolers) which I can now officially call an office. To clean out the office, though, we had to
attack our storeroom shelves. On and on it went.
Admittedly, I adapted and did one room at a time, as much as
possible. Doing it this way just comes
naturally to me, and personally, I would be too overwhelmed to have every room
in the house in chaos, but Marie does have a good idea with her method, because
what I discovered is that working on one room requires working on the others
almost at the same time.
Because of my enthusiasm, my husband got on board (and
naturally, he was officially on spider duty in the basement), and one of our
daughters got infected with the cleaning bug as well. As my husband and I attacked our
office/classroom, our son walked in and decided to attack his room as well.
So here we are, the cleaning Cassidys, and I must say, Marie
is right. It feels great! I just love walking into our spaces now,
knowing what we have and where to find it.
I think our local Catholic Charities likes us as well for the mounds of
donations we have made. That place has
been a lifesaver for me because I am more willing to let things go if I know
someone is going to be able to use them.
When you begin this process (which you will NEVER regret), a
good thing to do is ask yourself, “Can someone else use this, instead of it
sitting in my closet?” The
answer is almost always Yes! (It is hard to hold onto a nice sweater, that you
don’t wear, when the temperature drops and you know it might keep someone
warm.)
One of our daughters pointed out to me that for her, it is
time to stop saving things long term for one day, for someone who might need it. She put it beautifully when she said, “It’s
time to turn my apartment into a home instead of a storage place.”
Amen to that! I have
recalled her words often as I have had to mentally and emotionally let go of
things, along with the physical purge.
I have highlighted above a link to get you started and I do really hope you will make a commitment
to start the process. Marie is right
that it does bring joy to be able to use your space and it just feels good to
get organized and lighten up.
You know, the other reason I think I am so inspired—not to
sound morbid—is because a few years back when my mom went into a nursing home,
we had to go through everything to sell her house, and now, my mother-in-law
just made a move as well.
As I look to the future, I am always asking myself, “What do
I want my kids to have to do when I am gone?”
I see it almost as our gift to them that we are not going to leave them
with an overwhelming amount of stuff to clear out. (Of course if I live to be 100, I will have a
few more years to collect more stuff!)
I ask myself as I am going through things whether it is
something that is meaningful just to me, or if it will have any sentimental
meaning for them. If it is shoved in a
box and only has meaning for me, then I make hard choices and keep only those
things I just can’t part with, but the rest, I get rid of.
Whether we clean out our physical home or our spiritual
house, it is very freeing and opens up great potential for the fresh air to
pour in. In our spiritual life, a good
cleaning can be letting go of long-held anger against the church (or others)
and embracing forgiveness, or letting go of baggage that weighs us down and
clutters our emotional state.
When our spiritual house gets in order, we make room for
learning and personal growth, something we need to be doing throughout our life,
and something that not only benefits us, but those around us as well.
Working through spiritual clutter is a different kind of
work than a physical purging of our house; spiritual cleaning requires an open
dialogue with God, where we ask questions and listen carefully for guidance. What needs to be held on to, what needs to be
purged. Sort of like the KonMari
method! Put everything on the table and
deal with it.
God will lead you to the freedom you need, so that you can
move forward every day with increased joy as the space in your heart, and the
space in your head, are cleared to make way for the Word of God that is being
offered to you.
Janet Cassidy
Janetcassidy.com
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