I belong to a community group on Facebook where people might ask for recommendations for doctors, therapists, restaurants or the best places to vacation. They might ask about the best schools (when they are new to the community.)
Sometimes, the information can be helpful, but too often the comments turn very dark and ugly, judgmental and insulting.
Why do I keep the thread? Because sometimes, like I said, they make good suggestions. The idea is supposed to be neighbors helping neighbors, and when they do, it is a good reminder that some people are very kind and extremely generous.
But, sadly, the conversation frequently goes off-track, fast, by a handful of hateful people.
For instance, you might ask a simple question, like "Is there someone that could help me move? I'll pay them," and before you know it, you get an angry rant about how (pick your political party) is responsible for all of our problems.
I'm not kidding. You might have a lost puppy and you could get an earful about why you have been neglectful and allowed your dog to wander.
It's ridiculous.
There doesn't have to be a logical bridge for the topic to change, either.
It can get really bad.
Whatever the reason, I'd like to make a plea. If you need to be mean online, or elsewhere, please stop. Just stop. For while you are tapping away at your keyboard, consider that you could be pushing someone over the edge on a day when they are very vulnerable and very much in need.
Some people honestly seek community support, insight or even friendship. They may come to the "Uncensored Group" because they are in need and do not have family or friends to turn to, like maybe you do.
They shouldn't be chastised for reaching out.
Be kind.
Janet Cassidy
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Oi. Yeah. This sort of thing is why I've stopped looking for online "Catholic" or "religious" discussion groups. I've found a couple that aren't infested by this sort of thing - and they're focused on writing.
ReplyDeleteI'd think 'it's just me', but my oldest daughter has mentioned having the same experience. Small wonder we've got a reputation that's not enviable.
If my memory didn't extend back, well past the days when online social media began, I might blame technology. But I ran into the same "malignant virtue" back then, too. On the 'up' side, it's not limited to folks with warped religious attitudes. - as usual, that's more topics.